My beautiful daughter has turned 21. A cause for enormous celebration!….I think…..am I that old? How has time passed so quickly? Have I made the most of my time with her? Have I taught her and shown her enough of life?
To celebrate, family and friends gathered in Sydney for a Black Tie event. It was a fabulous evening, and voted by daughter as a huge success, so everyone was happy! (phew!)
I gave one of the speeches. I had no idea how difficult it would be to sum up in a short speech, (acutely aware that this age group is a tough audience with pretty low boredom thresholds) what and who my daughter is, and also what she means to me and her friends.
This is the speech I gave. I am pretty proud of it.
Many of you here, may or may not be aware, that I am part of a family of great orators. Skills that have been honed over many animated dinnertime conversations.
Both Molly’s brother, Hugh and father, Alec are as at home behind the lectern, as they are on the rugby field, or for that matter, almost any sporting field, and Molly absolutely loves an audience, her energy and enthusiasm shining through, whenever she stands to speak.
I, on the other hand, am not in their class, however, I do feel qualified to speak in praising terms of my uniquely, idiosyncratic exceptional daughter.
Parenting Molly is like being the willing, and sometimes, unwilling companion on the world’s biggest roller-coaster. And like a ride at Universal Studios, Florida, called the Incredible Hulk, which, by the way, is seriously good fun, Alec and I were accelerated at high speed out of the starting blocks at approximately 8pm, on October 21, 1992. As Molly is both the genetic and gender extension of myself, some of the highs, lows, twists and turns, I have experienced on this ride, have an eerily familiar feel!
Rollercoasters are quite breathtaking, in the graceful loop and turn of the tracks, etching a extravagant squiggle above you. Molly is a blue sky, big horizons girl, beautiful to look at, but behind that appeal, sits extreme curiosity, deductive skills, imagination and quick thinking that shoots off on the most improbable tangents.
Although, at times we head off in all sorts of directions, the roller-coaster car that I am in has never come off its tracks, it has remained fair, equitable and just. Molly has such wonderfully high ideals of love, life and everything, that our car is decorated like the best Hallmark card!
This ride goes fast! I am bumped from side to side, but the person next to me is always mindful of others feelings, and appreciates balance, harmony and peace. As our ride has hurtled along over these last 2 decades, I may have threatened to get off, once or twice, but Molly is the one to hold family and friendships together, happy if she can do something to help, or mend a broken relationship; always polite and charming.
I can’t see over the next rise, or hang on, maybe I can see too much. Molly’s confident chatter and wit is a watch-and-learn kind of thing that never ceases to amaze me. She will glide through a tough crowd, making herself a reliable companion, and then be totally at home on the smooth stretches. Molly knows this ride and will always do her best to give you good advise, if you ask, sometimes I am not able to listen, I might have been screaming, but she is terrible at holding grudges, and always finds it in her heart to forgive a lot of things.
I am getting used to this ride, and am now not so sure I want to step off, but I feel Molly will be nudging me out at the next stop, as she enters the next exciting phase of her life, and I think that is ok…as Christopher Robin said to his favourite bear:
If ever there is tomorrow
When we’re not together,
There is something you must always remember.
You are braver than you believe,
Stronger than you seem,
And smarter than you think.
But the most important thing is,
Even if we’re apart…
I’ll always be with you.